Divorced Dads : 101 Ways to Stay Connected with Your Kids
by Wasson, Nancy J., Ph.D.; Hefner, LeeFormat: Paperback
Pub. Date: 2002-08-01
Publisher(s): Hara Pub Group
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Author Biography
Lee Hefner is a divorced dad with ten years of experience in finding better ways to stay bonded with his long-distance daughter Nancy J. Wasson, Ph.D., is a clinical counselor and a divorced mom. She has more than two decades of experience in helping divorced parents build and maintain rewarding connections with their children
Table of Contents
| Preface | p. xv |
| Introduction | p. xvii |
| Decide What You Want: Develop Your Vision | p. 1 |
| Set Priorities | p. 3 |
| State Your Goals as a Father | p. 6 |
| Assess Your Strengths | p. 8 |
| Identify Areas of Growth | p. 10 |
| Take Responsibility for Your Choices and Actions | p. 12 |
| Commit to Action | p. 14 |
| Mend Fences: Create a Team Approach with Your Ex | p. 17 |
| Check Your Thinking | p. 19 |
| Adjust Your Attitude | p. 21 |
| Redirect Your Reactions | p. 22 |
| Work on Becoming Allies | p. 24 |
| Offer to Help Your Ex When You Can | p. 25 |
| Be Supportive of Your Ex's Parenting Efforts | p. 27 |
| Recognize Your Ex's New Spouse or Partner | p. 30 |
| Be Sensitive If You Have a New Mate | p. 32 |
| Request Support: Involve Others | p. 35 |
| Set Up Channels of Communication | p. 36 |
| Get Input from Your Ex | p. 38 |
| Obtain Recordings of Special Events | p. 40 |
| Ask Your Kids How They Prefer to Stay Connected with You | p. 41 |
| Encourage Extended Family Communication | p. 43 |
| Upgrade Your Parenting Skills: Connect More Deeply | p. 45 |
| Be Emotionally Available | p. 46 |
| Refine Your Sense of Humor | p. 48 |
| Work on Kindness | p. 50 |
| Reframe Failure as Learning | p. 51 |
| Reveal Yourself | p. 53 |
| Practice Good Listening Skills | p. 55 |
| Encourage Your Children | p. 56 |
| Practice Humility | p. 58 |
| Communicate Often: Vary the Method | p. 61 |
| Make Telephone Calls | p. 62 |
| Send Letters, Emails, or Faxes | p. 64 |
| Mail Greeting Cards | p. 66 |
| Deliver Favorite Foods | p. 67 |
| Entertain with Jokes and Riddles | p. 68 |
| Give Well-Timed Photographs | p. 70 |
| Collect News Items | p. 71 |
| Mail Postcards | p. 72 |
| Visit Your Kids | p. 74 |
| Watch a TV Show Together Long Distance | p. 75 |
| Review a Book Together | p. 76 |
| Share Artwork | p. 78 |
| Find a Comic Strip | p. 79 |
| Give Keepsakes to Remember | p. 81 |
| Use Instant Messaging | p. 82 |
| Set Up a Family Email List | p. 84 |
| Become the Family Webmaster | p. 86 |
| Provide Your Children with a Pager and a Cell Phone | p. 87 |
| Support Learning: Make Acquiring Knowledge Fun | p. 89 |
| Make the Initial Contact with the School | p. 90 |
| Seek Feedback from Your Kids' Teachers | p. 92 |
| Visit the School When Possible | p. 94 |
| Go on an Educational Outing | p. 96 |
| Help Develop Accountability | p. 97 |
| Encourage Learning | p. 99 |
| Support Goals and Dreaming | p. 100 |
| Help with School Projects | p. 102 |
| Plan Vacations/Visits Together: Start the Process Early | p. 105 |
| Select Activities to Do | p. 107 |
| Send Information About Your Vacation Plans | p. 108 |
| Use a Map | p. 110 |
| Take Your Children to a Family Reunion | p. 111 |
| Make Signs and Give Places Names | p. 113 |
| Take Pictures: Use Your Camera Effectively | p. 115 |
| Keep a Photo Album | p. 116 |
| Take a Photography Class Together | p. 118 |
| Use a PC Camera | p. 119 |
| Send a Photo Mug | p. 120 |
| Give a T-Shirt with a Selected Photo on It | p. 121 |
| Have a Picture Made into a Poster | p. 123 |
| Share Pictures from Your Life | p. 124 |
| Build Anticipation with Photos | p. 125 |
| Enjoy Recreational Activities: Explore Fun Things | p. 127 |
| Learn a Useful Skill Together | p. 129 |
| Play Interactive Internet Games | p. 130 |
| Learn a Sport Together | p. 131 |
| Help a Child Start a Collection | p. 133 |
| Cook Favorite Recipes | p. 134 |
| Try Bird Watching | p. 136 |
| Make Up Songs or Poems | p. 137 |
| Read or Create Stories | p. 138 |
| Plant a Garden | p. 140 |
| Research Your Family Tree | p. 141 |
| Learn about Foreign Places Together | p. 142 |
| Plant Something on Special Occasions | p. 144 |
| Broadcast a Radio Dedication | p. 145 |
| Tell Your Favorite Stories of Them | p. 146 |
| Splurge Occasionally: Send Gifts That Say You Care | p. 149 |
| Provide Gift Certificates or Coupons | p. 150 |
| Buy a Music CD or Tape | p. 151 |
| Send Flowers or Plants | p. 153 |
| Select a Book of a Particular Genre | p. 154 |
| Buy a Share of Stock | p. 156 |
| Customize a Book | p. 157 |
| Purchase Toys and Kits | p. 158 |
| Order a Magazine Subscription | p. 160 |
| Name a Star after a Child | p. 161 |
| Give Things Related to Family History | p. 162 |
| Deliver Gourmet or Special Food Items | p. 164 |
| Choose Sports Equipment | p. 165 |
| Bond with Shirts and Hats | p. 167 |
| Say "Thank You" Often: Express Gratitude to Others | p. 169 |
| Credit Your Ex-Wife and Her Family | p. 170 |
| Praise Your Family Members and Friends | p. 172 |
| Recognize Your Child's Mentors | p. 173 |
| Thank Your Higher Power | p. 175 |
| Teach Values and Beliefs: Set the Example | p. 177 |
| Set an Example with Your Own Faith | p. 179 |
| Show Your Values by Your Actions | p. 180 |
| Do Volunteer Work Together | p. 182 |
| Meditate/Pray/Worship Together | p. 183 |
| We'd Like Your Help | p. 185 |
| Additional Resources | p. 186 |
| Index | p. 189 |
| About the Authors | p. 201 |
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